Q: At work, they have asked for a $5 donation to purchase a gift for "the boss." I have real issues with this woman. With the way I feel, I really don't want to make a donation. Am I being petty?
– Conflicted in Georgia

A: No, you're not petty. You're being sincere and not phony. Obligatory "donations" go against the true spirit of the holiday season. Ideally, gifts should come from the heart. However, you need to be practical. Figure out whether she will know you didn't donate. If that is a possibility, then it may cause you more trouble than it is worth to snub her. Only you can decide that. If you think that no one will tell, then simply tell whoever is collecting: "Sorry but I'm not able to donate this season." You're not obligated to give any further reason.